Body Shaming and Body Positivity.

I took to Twitter on Tuesday asking you all what sort of posts you’d want to see on my blog and one user told me she’d like to see a post related to body positivity. This is something extremely close to my heart, as I’m sure it is for so many of you, and, after I saw an article from 2010, I decided to incorporate the idea of body shaming into it, so it’s all one post rather than two separate posts.

Before I get into it, I thought it would be a good idea to share a personal experience with you all. I’ve written about it a few times but ended up deleting it, feeling ashamed of myself but, if I can use my experience to raise awareness, then that’s exactly what I’m going to do. I suffered from an eating disorder from the age of fifteen to twenty, having a distorted perception of my body image and believing that I was huge when, in reality, I’ve always been a petite person. I saw so many doctors about my weight which was very low only to be told to go and ‘eat something’. Looking back at that, it was SUCH an incredibly insensitive thing to say to someone who felt physically sick at the idea of eating and no real help was ever offered to me. Last November, after losing a ton of weight and becoming bulimic, my doctor told me that if I continued I would be sent to live in a hospital with other people suffering from the same as me. This, along with my friends and family, pushed me to get better and, while my weight is still quite low, I’m now healthy and building a good relationship with food. I’ll always be on the smaller side as I have a petite frame and no longer see myself as someone who needed to lose weight.

Body shaming is sadly still in our society, even in this day and age where different body types are all deemed to be beautiful, there is still so much hate and pressure on men and women to look a certain way. Fat-shaming and skinny-shaming is a thing. As someone who still suffers from the latter, I believe it to be equal to fat-shaming as they both have the same end result, making someone feel awful about themselves due to their body image.

Skinny-shaming is a thing…sorry.

I mean, it had to be said you know? So many people don’t see skinny-shaming to be a bad thing. I’ve been called out for being too thin and it makes me feel like a complete freak, so why don’t you consider that before judging? If fat-shaming can be a thing, then so can skinny-shaming. I can’t stand being told to go eat a burger because chances are, I’ve just stuffed my face with a big bowl of cheesy pasta, or that ‘real women’ have curves. ERGHHH!! You have no idea how much that annoys me.

I was having a conversation with my best friend the other day about this. She is of an average side with a lovely amount of curves. To me, she has a really nice body yet she said she doesn’t like it and prefers my body, petite with minimal curves. We were talking for a while and she ended up saying, “it’s so funny how we like each other’s bodies and not our own”. This definitely got me thinking. Am I a victim of body shaming because I don’t like my own body? I mean, you can never end hate and bullying, so why not start loving my body and ignoring the people around me who say it isn’t good enough? Why not become unphased by the nasty comments and go on with life loving me for me?

Upon doing a bit of research, I read some articles dating back to 2010 when Mila Kunis lost a lot of weight for her role in the Black Swan. Some of the headlines are genuinely horrible to read, and Mila Kunis herself said that on camera she looked good but 95 pounds looked gross in real life. This is such a freaking negative comment to make and so hurtful for young people who weigh that much naturally. I’m currently 95 pounds and, while I know I am underweight, I eat a lot and I’m just NATURALLY smaller.

Plus-sized women are being celebrated in the media and I am so happy that body positivity is growing (slowly but surely). If you are plus sized and healthy, you are beautiful and embrace your body. If you are smaller and healthy, you are as equally as beautiful. It’s not a competition and the idea that some women argue over who has it worse is ridiculous. Why don’t we stop wasting time hating and spend more time celebrating and supporting each other?

All bodies are beautiful bodies.

6 thoughts

  1. I totally understand and know exactly what you are feeling, I’ve always been a petite person growing up adults around me would constantly shame me for it. Now that I’m older (32) I haven’t seen any changes in people. I always say, “thin people have feelings too!” Much love Lia

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  2. This is an incredible and honest and beautiful and helpful post. I am so proud of you for opening up about your struggles and I hope that soon it will all be in the past for you. I’ve recovered from anorexia after 10 years of battling so please feel free to message me on Twitter or Instagram (@lunarchar_ for both) if I can ever help at all! – I’ve followed you on both to make it easier and to keep up with your posts. Char // xx

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  3. While I never suffered from an eating disorder, I always felt like I was too fat, especially when I was in high school (especially when I compared myself to my best friend). It wasn’t until after I went to college and I gained some weight that I would look at my past pictures and realize how thin I actually was. Now I’m learning to embrace the natural figure I have. I’m always going to have thicker thighs, and a lil more “cushion”. Like you said, we all have to love the bodies we have, because it’s the only ones we have! Great post 🙂 xx

    Melina |

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  4. Thank you for sharing this post. I think it’s important to talk about the other end of the spectrum to educate others – talking about how skinny-shaming is a problem just like fat-shaming and deserves the same recognition. I am sorry that medical professionals were so unhelpful as I believe it is important to be supportive, especially after often they are the most trusted people in these situations.

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